Posted in Feminism, Lifestyle, Personal, Politics, society

Who Actually Hates Housewives

Listening to the podcast Stuff Mom Never Told You in their coverage of the life of Phyllis Schlafly has got me thinking. Cristen and Caroline have been pointing out Schlafly’s hypocrisy and her denial of it, especially in her takedown of the idea that she was against women having careers. She claimed she never told women they should be housewives, she just didn’t think we needed a Constitutional protection for women. 

Ok, Phyllis, you’ve got an eternity to learn now, hopefully your spirit will transcend your earthly blind spots. 

Anyway, Schlafly and her ilk often claimed that feminists wanted to devalue housework and women who choose to be housewives. That’s a conservative rallying cry, has been for decades. 

But here’s my thought. Throughout my life, it’s always been feminists who taught me that there is no shame in taking care of a family and keeping things clean. That’s not where I learned my disdain for that lifestyle. 

But if not feminists, Kylie, then who? Get ready for this: PATRIARCHY.

Yes, the patriarchy. The system that says women just need to run their husbands’ homes and take care of children. 

But Kylie, conservatives love and honor the women who take care of their homes, how did you figure that they hate housewives?

Because, if you teach your sons that doing housework is beneath them, you necessarily teach them that whoever is doing it is the bitch of the family. To be clear, I mean “bitch” as in “to make (someone) your bitch.” 

From the patriarchal society around me, I learned that people who don’t work outside the home are lesser people whose dreams and aspirations matter less than the man they are married to, or the children they bear. 

They can make all the noise they want about honoring women, but we all know the truth. They ain’t doing that shit, so it falls to you, bitch. 

Feminists are the ones who say, “look, the dishes need to be done, and there is honor in doing them, whether you have a penis or a vagina or something else.” 

So can we stop with this whole “feminists are the real oppressors” bit? No? 

Ah well, the struggle continues. 

Posted in Election, News, Politics, society

Election Cycle Blues

I am so freaking tired of this election. I’ve honestly been tired since this time last year, but now I really just want the GOP candidate to go away. I have always thought he was useless garbage not worth paying attention to, and I am so mad that his racist xenophobic conspiracy theory believing base has forced us all to pay attention to him for more than a year. 

That’s actually not the point of this post, misleading title aside. I was on Twitter earlier, following my radical lefty people, and I saw a story about two prisoners who died in the prison strike going on right now. This is big freaking news. This strike has been going for over a month, and people are dying. And it doesn’t appear to be big news in the mainstream. 

I’m not super familiar with mainstream media anymore. I don’t have a newspaper subscription, and I don’t watch cable news, mainly because we do not get tv channels in my apartment, not because I think I’m better than you. So I decided to check whether this story is actually being covered. 

I did a google search just for the words “prison strike” and then I clicked the news tab, just to be fair. 

First three results were from:

1. The Week Magazine

2. RT (Russian state tv’s U.S. news page)

3. Buzzfeed News 

Lower on the list were Vice News, the Florida Times, and The New Yorker.

So, not totally obscure publications, but not major mainstream sites either. But if you search Washington Post, they put some election based article above the main homepage in the Google results. 

I can’t help but think the election is distracting us from the real news. 

Right now, the residents of Flint Michigan are still suffering from poisoned water. 

Right now, the Standing Rock Sioux and their fellow water protectors are in a standoff with corporations for the safety of our environment. 

And people are killed by police every day in those country. 

Why can’t we get the media to focus on any of that?

Now, I’m not saying the election isn’t important. We are choosing the leader of the United States, an that has ripple effects on the whole world. I’m not saying that as a nationalist, I’m stating it as fact. But the spectacle, the years long parade of ridiculous people building a media personality and invading our homes through the nightly news every single day, that surely isn’t good for Democracy. 

I don’t know how to fix it. 

I just know that paying attention to the real issues is more important than obsessing over a few polling points (unless it’s your job to look at the stats). The work to fix our country will go on no matter who wins. I can’t wait for this election to be over, and I hope they start focusing on the issues of today, rather than just say, “Well, let’s see what will happen in 2020.” 

Let’s refocus, please. 

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Men Don’t Care If…

Apologies for the long delay in posting, some real life got in the way, but now that things are looking up, I wanted to return to writing.

So, without further ado…

I was on Twitter just now, and came across one of those generic “10 Things Men Don’t Care About” articles, which dating advice advocates love to tout. It involved such gems as: We don’t care if you wear makeup, or we don’t care if you don’t look perfect, or we don’t care if you drink, what you eat, etc.

I suppose there are people who need these messages, either because they are surrounded by a culture where men do degrade women for not eating daintily or for daring not to wear concealer over their faces.

But I always feel that these articles are missing the point.

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The best way to wall off the world when you have no choice but to go there. Photo Credit: Public Domain,


I’m rather introverted. I prefer not to have to interact with people outside of situations when I choose to do so.  Even so, I often have to be around people, even if I wouldn’t choose it in an ideal world: sitting on the train or the bus, walking down the street, sitting in the lobby while waiting for an appointment, eating in a cafe, just anywhere.

I can’t help that people are around me in these situations, but I can try to keep from bothering them, and keep them from engaging with me. Usually, I do this with headphones: I listen to music or podcasts, and sometimes I’m reading a book (or Kindle).

So it’s really jarring for me if I’m in a space where no one really has a reason to talk to me, nor am I in anyone’s way, and I’ve found my own little nest at a table or in a seat on the bus, and someone interrupts my personal time.

Often times it takes me awhile to realize they’re even talking to me. Sometimes I can hear them talking, but I don’t connect, “Excuse me, miss” with me. Either I can’t see them because I’m looking down, or they are behind me or otherwise outside my line of vision, but I assume their voice is directed at someone else whom I can’t see either.

Sometimes I am so unused to being addressed in the specific situation I find myself. For example, I’ve had bus drivers call something out to me, everything from asking for directions when they’re new to the route to asking me if I mind whether they turn on the air conditioner. I try not to get angry in this incidents, because after all the driver is a person who deserves to be treated with dignity. As such, I answer them politely and try to build a good rapport. It’s not always a bad thing to have to talk to someone I wouldn’t normally notice.

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